angelabardo

Addiction is not a weakness, addiction is a disease. Watching her as I grew up with sunken in eyes, muttering to herself was something I did not ask for but I loved her anyway. Don’t let somebody else’s disease destroy you.

Do not expect them to change. Do not expect them to change. Do not put your sanity into their sobriety. Support them. Do not expect them to change because they are your mother, father, because they love you.

When they call you at 4 a.m. slurring their words sobbing, tell them you love them. Then remember to love yourself too, hang up. Go back to bed. I know it hurts.

Even if she screams at you as she collapses on the floor, know deep down somewhere she loves you. Right now she can’t walk straight let alone get her shit together. Hold her.

The person standing before you is not the person you know. It is the addict within them — this took me 15 years to understand. Addicts are dishonest, sneaky, narcissistic, and thieves. My mother is intelligent, strong willed, determined and adventurous. Learn to know the difference.

There will be ups and downs. Cherish the ups. No matter how short. Try to let the past go, so you can have time to make better memories, trust me. Anger is going to consume you. I want you to bite your tongue.

When they reach recovery and sobriety, don’t talk down to them about how they fucked up. They are well aware and they are not proud. Do not increase the self hatred they already feel.

If it gets to be too much in one night? Leave. I understand all too well.

For the love of God, do not play with fire. Don’t you dare inject toxic into your veins like they did.

As you get older it’ll make more sense than it does right now. Your nightmares will ease and you will learn to trust again.

When they get in deep, you’ll drive to their house to make sure they are still there, still conscious. You’ll call constantly desperate to hear their voice. In my opinion this is the worst form of anxiety. You’re going to make it. Breathe.

Addiction can sink so deep into you, that it has the ability to kill you. Do not be afraid to call 911 when they’re passed out, wheezing. When they’re covered in their own vomit, hyperventilating. They will be angry. But they will also be alive.

Do yourself a favor and remind those around you who also deal with her cruel words, that this isn’t their fault. She’s not herself. Be realistic. Hope is excellent until you drown yourself in it.

A personal message from the daughter of two addicts to you — it will be okay. You don’t have to be like them, you are not them. This is an infinite battle but you will heal. I did.

what I’ve learned through loving an addict  (via healingx)
shootcops
Recognizable addictive behaviors emerge as addiction takes hold. They are the result of a subconscious process in which new thought patterns are adopted to facilitate addiction. Addicts do not consciously decide to change their behavior. Rather, the process of change occurs at a deeper level, a result of the marvelous human capacity to adapt to altered circumstances. The addicts, not realizing what is happening, begin to think and behave in ways that may have been foreign before the addiction took hold, but now seem natural and even necessary. Their brains have been biologically and chemically altered.
Addict in the Family: Stories of Loss, Hope, and Recovery by Beverly Conyers (via shootcops)
evilfeminist

evilfeminist:

Me being gender critical doesn’t erase your identity and isn’t a call for trans people to be killed. Women are allowed to structurally analyize social theory, regardless of if you agree with them or not. If you can’t tell the difference between political analysis, and a call for a mass extermination, then you probably shouldn’t be given your own political platform.  

Guys can be so fucking stupid sometimes. Theyre always so quick to say “not all men are like that! Were not a monolith stop treating us like one!!! Dont generalize men!!! Not all men!!” And then the next thing they say literally is “all feminists are crazy and radical and they all are misandrists and all of feminism is unneeded and crazy and paranoid and lol feminists am I rite u guys??” Soooo “not all men” but all feminists are the same right? Its not like theres different theories of feminism or anything right….

buzzfeed

buzzfeed:

“If I could go back in time and tell myself not to do this. I wouldn’t. That is, I wouldn’t tell myself not to. Because it’s for the best. Regardless of how the outcome is actually getting painted. As this giant harassment campaign against women filled with all sorts of death threats. On the ground the movement isn’t barely like that.”

He says he made “thezoepost” for “social justice reasons” are you fucking kidding me? Who is he trying to kid? What good is airing the dirty laundry of his relationship doing anyone? Is this a fucking joke???? How is airing this helping anyone in the slightest? Thats some personal shit you keep between you, your SO, and your therapist not the whole of the internet. He knew this would be used against her viciously cmon. And the five guys thing was low.

onlinecutie

Anonymous asked:

What is it called if I am a lesbian but I would not have sex with a woman with male genitalia?

shitrichcollegekidssay answered:

a transmisogynist

-queercomrade

No, youre not. You do not need to have intercourse with anyone youre not comfortable with, no matter their physical attributes. You dont have to fuck anyone, you owe no one your attraction or body. Youre not a bigot, these people love to shame women for their sexualities. Funny how they dont tell gay men this shit. Oh right sexism.